In this lesson I actually begin my inventory worksheets, and continue to work on Principal 4 and Step 4.
Since there are no questions in this lesson, just information, I transferred it into this post. I changed the “you” & “your” into “I” & “me” to make it about MY recovery not just generalized.
Think About It…
Now that I have the background information and I’ve built my accountability team its time to start writing my inventory. This lesson will provide me with the tools I need.
How do I start my inventory?
The Celebrate Recovery Inventory is divided into five sections. It will help me keep focused on reality and recall events that I may have repressed. I must remember, I am not going through this alone. I have developed my support team to help guide me, but even more important, I am growing in my relationship with Jesus Christ!
It will take me more than one page to write out y inventory. I have several paper copies and have one on the computer as well to use.
Column 1: “The Person, Place, Institution”
- In this column I list the person or object I resent or fear. I need to go as far back as I can. Resentment is mostly unexpressed anger and fear.
- “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Ephesians 4:31
Column 2: “The Cause” (Event)
- It has been said that “hurt people hurt people.” In this column I am going to list the specific actions the person did to hurt me. What did that person do to cause me resentment an d/or fear? An example would be the alcoholic father who was emotionally unavailable for me as I was growing up. Another example would be the parent who attempted to control and dominate my life. This reflective look might be painful, but …
- “Fear not, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed. I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
Column 3: “The Effect” (Feelings)
- In this column I will write down how that specific hurtful action affected my life. List the effects it had on my past and present.
Column 4: “The Damage” (Belief Systems, Losses, Insecurities)
- Which of my basic instincts were injured?
- Social – broken relationships, slander
- Security – physical safety, financial loss
- Sexual – abusive relationships, damaged intimacy
- No matter how I have been hurt, no matter how lost I may feel, God wants to comfort and restore me.
- “I will look for those that are lost, I bring back those that wander off, bandage those that are hurt, and heal those that are sick.” Ezekiel 34:16
Column 5: My Part (Character defects, Behaviors, Choices)
- I need to ask myself, “What part of the resentment against another is my responsibility?” I need to ask God to show me my part in a broken or damaged marriage or relationship, with a distant child or parent, or maybe a lost job. In addition I need to list all the people who I have hurt and how I hurt them.
- “Examine me, O god, and keep my mind; test me, and discover … if there is any evil in me and guide me in the everlasting way.” Psalm 139: 23-24
Please note: I have been in an abusive relationship, both as a child and as an adult, I can find great freedom in this part of my inventory. I will see that I had NO part, NO responsibility for the cause of the resentment. By simply writing the words “Not Guilty” in column 5, I can begin to be free from the misplaced shame and guilt I carry with me.
Celebrate Recovery has rewritten Step 4 for me as an abuse victim.
- I made a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself, realizing all wrongs can be forgiven. I renounce the lie that the abuse is my fault.
- Memorize Isaiah 1:8: “Come let’s talk this over! says the Lord; no matter how deep the stain of your sins, I can take it out and make you clean as freshly fallen snow. Even if you are stained as red as crimson, I can make you white as wool!”
- Read Principal 4 “Balancing The Scale” Verses
Keep my inventory balanced. List both good and bad! This is very important! As God reveals the good things I have done in the past, or that I am doing in the present, I can list them on the back of my inventory pages.Removed this tool because Karrie W. said to only deal with negative on the inventory sheets!
- Continue to develop my support team!
- Pray continuously!