Lesson 9: Inventory … An Explanation

In this lesson I actually begin my inventory worksheets, and continue to work on Principal 4 and Step 4.

Since there are no questions in this lesson, just information, I transferred it into this post. I changed the “you” & “your” into “I” & “me” to make it about MY recovery not just generalized.

Think About It…

Now that I have the background information and I’ve built my accountability team its time to start writing my inventory. This lesson will provide me with the tools I need.

How do I start my inventory?

The Celebrate Recovery Inventory is divided into five sections. It will help me keep focused on reality and recall events that I may have repressed. I must remember, I am not going through this alone. I have developed my support team to help guide me, but even more important, I am growing in my relationship with Jesus Christ!

It will take me more than one page to write out y inventory. I have several paper copies and have one on the computer as well to use.

Column 1: “The Person, Place, Institution”

  • In this column I list the person or object I resent or fear. I need to go as far back as I can. Resentment is mostly unexpressed anger and fear.

    • “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Ephesians 4:31

Column 2: “The Cause” (Event)

  • It has been said that “hurt people hurt people.” In this column I am going to list the specific actions the person did to hurt me. What did that person do to cause me resentment an d/or fear? An example would be the alcoholic father who was emotionally unavailable for me as I was growing up. Another example would be the parent who attempted to control and dominate my life. This reflective look might be painful, but …

    • “Fear not, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed. I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

Column 3: “The Effect” (Feelings)

  • In this column I will write down how that specific hurtful action affected my life. List the effects it had on my past and present.

Column 4: “The Damage” (Belief Systems, Losses, Insecurities)

  • Which of my basic instincts were injured?

    • Social – broken relationships, slander
    • Security – physical safety, financial loss
    • Sexual – abusive relationships, damaged intimacy

  • No matter how I have been hurt, no matter how lost I may feel, God wants to comfort and restore me.
  • “I will look for those that are lost, I bring back those that wander off, bandage those that are hurt, and heal those that are sick.” Ezekiel 34:16

Column 5: My Part (Character defects, Behaviors, Choices)

  • I need to ask myself, “What part of the resentment against another is my responsibility?” I need to ask God to show me my part in a broken or damaged marriage or relationship, with a distant child or parent, or maybe a lost job. In addition I need to list all the people who I have hurt and how I hurt them.
     

    • “Examine me, O god, and keep my mind; test me, and discover … if there is any evil in me and guide me in the everlasting way.” Psalm 139: 23-24

Please note: I have been in an abusive relationship, both as a child and as an adult, I can find great freedom in this part of my inventory. I will see that I had NO part, NO responsibility for the cause of the resentment. By simply writing the words “Not Guilty” in column 5, I can begin to be free from the misplaced shame and guilt I carry with me.

Celebrate Recovery has rewritten Step 4 for me as an abuse victim.

  • I made a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself, realizing all wrongs can be forgiven. I renounce the lie that the abuse is my fault.

More Tools:

  1. Memorize Isaiah 1:8: “Come let’s talk this over! says the Lord; no matter how deep the stain of your sins, I can take it out and make you clean as freshly fallen snow. Even if you are stained as red as crimson, I can make you white as wool!”
  2. Read Principal 4 “Balancing The Scale” Verses
  3. Keep my inventory balanced. List both good and bad! This is very important! As God reveals the good things I have done in the past, or that I am doing in the present, I can list them on the back of my inventory pages. Removed this tool because Karrie W. said to only deal with negative on the inventory sheets!
  4. Continue to develop my support team!
  5. Pray continuously!
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